4 Secrets To Making Yourself Irresistible!

Underneath is an article I read a couple of weeks ago and I found it so closer to reality that I decided to share it with all my readers :) Being irresistible and interesting is what we all desire for so here are a few tips to enjoy life and yet become attractive to the people around you! With a few additions and subtractions, I have brought this article to you. Hope you enjoy the read ;)

Four Secrets to Making yourself irresistible:

1) Confidence, confidence, confidence!

One of the most attractive traits you can have is confidence. We are all naturally drawn to people who are self-assured and confident. Part of the reason for this is because we tend to admire people who have traits we would like to possess ourselves. And confidence is one of those traits so many people lack. Also, if one already possesses a positive trait, we are drawn to others who have it as well.
Confident people are appealing because they act from a position of strength. That is, they don’t give their power away easily, and thus are more in control when it comes to interpersonal situations. A truly confident person usually has high self-esteem. As a result she is typically less “needy” in a relationship, drawing others to her, rather than repelling them like needy people do.
Now you may be thinking to yourself, if I am lacking in confidence how do I get it? Well, there are many things you can do to build your self-confidence which are beyond the scope of this article, but the first thing you can do is to “act as if”. This can actually be quite powerful if you do it consistently.
Practice acting as if you are confident. Standing tall and looking people in the eye when you talk to them are two good places to start. Observe others who appear confident and model their behavior. Smile and say hi to people and initiate conversations. You may be quaking in your boots on the inside, but only you need to know that! Acting “as if” is a great way to begin developing any desirable trait, and the more you do it, the more it will develop.

2) Stop being so nice…


This is a far more crucial aspect of attractiveness than most people realize. First, let me clarify that there is nothing wrong with being a truly nice person, IF you are doing it for the right reasons and if you have a lot of other great qualities to go with it. Unfortunately, some people act nice because a) they need to compensate for a lack other positive qualities; b) they are incredibly insecure and desperate to please; or c) they want something from you. In these three cases, “nice” is not really a good trait and makes a person anything but attractive. Have you ever met someone who you thought was “really nice” at first, and then in time, when they didn’t get what they wanted from you they suddenly turned on you and showed a very dark side? Or, perhaps you've met people who are nice in that they are so desperate to win your approval that they always agree with you, always laugh at your jokes, and will do anything you ask them to. Now, how much respect do you have for people who are like that? Probably very little, if any.

Most people appreciate a woman who is secure enough to stand up for herself, says no, disagree, and express her opinion even when it is the opposite of theirs. Not only is it intriguing, it shows confidence and strength. This isn’t to say you should never agree with them or that you should shove your opinions in their face at every opportunity. Rather you want to show that you don’t need their approval; that you are your own person. And that makes you very attractive and interesting.

3) Never talk about your flaws!

Okay, I need to preface this with saying that when you know a person quite well, it’s okay to share some of your most secret self doubts and insecurities. BUT, early on, don’t whine about your flaws! You want them focusing on your strengths and not your faults, so by all means don’t go pointing them out to the people yourself. Because if you do, they would start wondering that if you don't like yourself, what do they like you for?!

4) Leave them with a desire to know you more...

This is vital, specially when you have succeeded in impressing someone, it is better not to give away your thoughts, aims, desires, secrets, strengths and weaknesses - all at once. leave them to explore you with the passage of time. Because if they would know all about you in no less than one or two meetings, they might get bored of you too quickly. So act wisely and live happily ;)

Courtesy: http://healthyandbeloved.com/?p=71